TT.13 | FRIENDSHIPS AND HOW TO KEEP UP WITH THEM
Okay, so last week I shared with you how to keep up with and make new blogging friends. You can read that post HERE. Then I realized, I have real-life friends too! Duh!
And since it’s Thankful Thursday, I figured I’d dedicate this post to them.
But, I will admit, even though I love my friends a whole whole lot, I’m horrible at keeping up with them everyday.
I guess it’s because growing up, we were always moving, so I never really had to keep up with people. They were gone in a year or so. <– not an excuse, just my rationale.
But, because of that, I never got a good foundation in friend skills. Yes, there is such a thing as friend skills.
But, I’m trying to do better. I need to do better.
Soooooo, I came up with another ‘listy poo’ for y’all today! Get excited!!
Keeping up with friends in the real world is just as easy as keeping up with blogging buddies. And, actually pretty similar.
1. Put yourself out there.
Don’t be afraid to randomly text or call them for no reason at all, other than you were thinking about them. They’ll appreciate the thought, and if you do this every time you think about them, you kind of are checking in with them on a regular basis.
See this is where I mess up. I ‘think’ about my friends all the time. But, I think weird stalkerish things… like ‘I wonder what blah-blah is doing right now?’ Or ‘does blah-blah remember that time when…’ Not ‘I hope blah-blah is doing okay. I should contact her to see how her life has progressed in the last week.’
Yeah. So not me.
This first tip has really helped me to remember to reach out. Even though I’m busy, I still think about them every once in a while.
2. Be a social butterfly.
I don’t mean this in its usual context. I mean you can go out and make a ton of new friends, but you gotta learn to keep up with the ones you already have first. One at a time my friend.
I mean be social with your friends. Lord knows I’m a homebody. I could be home with my computer and Kitchenaid for weeks at a time, but that’s not a good tactic to keep happy friends. So sometimes, I give in and hang out. LOL Don’t tell them I said that! I love hanging out with them when we do, but if it were up to me, I would probably never initiate anything because it simply doesn’t cross my mind.
Again, I need to do better.
3. Genuinity is also your best friend.
My friends kill me for this. For some reason, they think I’m not genuine because I ‘listen with my heart’. I think that makes total sense but they disagree. I’m a little slow sometimes, so I don’t always comprehend what they’re talking about, but I say ‘uh-huh’ anyways. So because they know I don’t really know what’s going on, they think I don’t listen.
But! They know if it’s something serious, I’m always there for them! So, that’s what matters!
But, my point in adding this to the list is to emphasize the importance of sincerity and true friendship. Don’t maintain a friendship that isn’t a positive one. As we grow older, we realize who is really going to be in our lives forever. Invest time in those relationships! Real friends are hard to come by!
So, I’ll admit, 2 of the 3 tips I gave you, I’m still working on. But that’s life — a big ol’ tumbleweed that just keeps growing and rolling.
How do you invest in your friendships? What are your tips for keeping up with friends and living a busy life?
My friends have a very special place in my heart, and they know that at the end of the day. So very thankful to have them in my life! With Love, M&W.
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